Setting healthy boundaries is an essential step of an effective self-care routine. Limits are designed to show others how you expect to be treated, not abused or disrespected. In addition, they establish a healthy level of separation for each party to have their thoughts, ideas, or opinions.
Boundaries are not selfish, or rude nor should they take from others. Instead, they are guidelines that set your needs, limits, and expectations for you and others developed from your values, opinions, or core beliefs.
Here are a few tips for establishing proper self-care boundaries without feeling guilty:
Practice Assertive Communication
Don’t be afraid to speak up. Let people know how you feel without being disrespectful. You can share your thoughts and ideas without expecting others to change. Use “I” statements and avoid putting the blame or responsibility on others. Assertive communication is about mutual respect so everyone can live their own lives peacefully.
Remember the Importance of a Healthy Compromise
Be sure you are not putting up barriers instead. Boundaries do not block out communication or emotions. On the contrary, they allow for open communication from all parties to establish independence while working together.
Be Clear and Strict from The Start
Let those around you know your boundaries from the very start, and don’t be afraid to own them. If you are uncomfortable with the help, speak up and provide the reason. Be respectful and don’t assume the other party is doing it on purpose or out of spite.
Don’t Expect to Please Everyone You Know or See
Learn to know that you won’t be able to impress everyone. Certain boundaries will not work together, and it is okay to respectfully walk away if you can’t find a healthy compromise. However, you should never completely push away your needs, wants, or emotions for the sake of someone else’s happiness.
If you find yourself putting others first more often, you likely don’t have the right boundaries. Use these tips to establish better boundaries with your friends, loved ones, and co-workers to follow a self-care plan that works for you. Remember, it is only selfish if you expect others to do things for you or take from them. Boundaries are about your personal beliefs and how you want others to treat you, but they are not demands or barriers to proper communication with others.